You know, I could have titled this, “Ladies, Why Are We Keeping This Guy In Circulation??” but decided that perhaps showing you how to prevent from being scammed by online romances, you’d enjoy and even learn more about how this guy operates, by reading my interaction with him, and perhaps, give this man some peace knowing, you’re not making it easy for his (handsome) pictures to be used again.
But first, let me share a few facts about him/this picture that I know so far:
- These pictures were hacked by the scammer(s). This interaction is NOT the man in the picture. Trust me, myself and the 2,000+ women who was contacted with these pictures wish with ALL OUR MIGHT that it was him. Aside from being just beautiful to look at, he is also presented as classy, romantic, and everything a woman could want. (Good listener, rich and ready to travel with you, sending roses, talking with you, etc)
- He, (The Scammer, which from here until otherwise noted) has approached women on Match.com, Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram. I was approached on Instagram.
- The pictures have been in circulation since 2012.
- His aliases include, Malcolm, Evan (on Linkedin), Michael (on Facebook), Chris (Match.com), Jason (on Instagram). My guy’s name was Jason.
- He gets more clever, for the next victim, every time the current victim ‘corrects’ him on something weird.
- According to scam sites that detail these pictures, the scammers come from Ghana or Nigeria.
- He is never able to do a video chat and his camera never working.
- Says he’s an avid football fan.
- He asks you for Amazon gift cards, Itunes, Moneygram, or Western Union to help 1.) save his business, 2.) help his ‘daughter’
- Says he lives and works in Los Angeles – lol, for those who live in LA, wait until you see the address he gave to his HOUSE..
- Gave a social security number, which, worry not, I already reported to the police for possible fraud activity.
- He is always a widow and since 2016, has a 5-year-old – still to this day.
- He asks you to open a PayPal, Verizon or AT&T account, which has your social security number and bank information, to help him. He didn’t accept the Paypal account I opened in his name, with the social he gave me. He played dumb, and so was I
- He worked like clockwork on a schedule, always saying when he was eating, walking his dog, bathing his ‘daughter’, eating steak – he was so good, I was questioning and doubting even myself.
- Even though you are talking to one scammer, other women are also talking to other scammers, using the same pictures, because, well, if ain’t broke…(hopefully, this blog breaks it)
- He tries to get the victims off the site he met them as quickly as possible, using either email or a disposable, prepaid phone with either a LA number or Houston number.
- There is a forum of women, heartbroken or angry, about how they were duped by him (the con-artists)
Understand, I share this for two reasons – 1.) To make public these pictures so the scammers can finally leave him alone, and 2.) I can come to a full resolve by sharing how easy I was duped while at a vulnerable moment, perhaps saving other women, years from now.
You see, he called me wifey. He wooed me, and, after a few months, we made had wild, passionate online sex. I even sent him nudes (sure, later he used to extort me. I laughed and offered pictures with better lighting – I was so shaken up and angry. I’ll share more later.) He and I broke up and got back together MANY times. He claimed our love was destined by God. He even helped me with figures of my business while I was doing taxes, (though I don’t remember him speaking of his taxes at all). But we prayed together. He took me church with him and his daughter. Funny how I was able to detach for my clients and do the background search for them when I was a matchmaker, but neglected to do it for myself. The divorce took a toll on me.
He was one of my biggest fans. But when I shared that I was coming out to LA, he questioned me. I always knew the flags were there, that this was a fantasy, but I yearned for that bond, the intimacy and fantasy he provided me. I was hooked.
But every time I get weak, I read the texts where he blames me for his mental illness recurring; the urging for me to open a Verizon/At&t account and give him the passwords; the narcissistic accusations that I’m not helping his business with my mistrust of him, and not doing as he asked of me.
Our text interaction will perhaps be in the book, entitled, What if F**ks Are All You Have to Give?