The ‘training’ in finding love is just as intense as “The Karate Kid.”
You start off sloppy, almost cocky and self-reliant that ‘you’ve got this’ thing called love, if only you met the person..but little did you know you must FIRST meet the person. And so, you try and fail, try and fail,
But that little voice inside you keeps encouraging you that there is love out there for you. You ARE worth giving and receiving healthy love. And so, you re-learn basics such as manners, being courteous to others, how to be a trusting friend
Until you scream out loud to the skies why you have to learn all this, since you already know it. The thing is, if you’ve ever felt like you’ve been fooled in a relationship, if you ever felt like you’ve given your heart, body, and energy to someone who wasn’t right for you, the lesson of discernment (the ability to judge well) is now needed to be added. So now your training on distinguishing between those who are even considered as prospects become more crucial. Notice the training is on you and your ability to recognize THE one.
In order to learn these things, there needs to be periods of alone time – not to be confused for loneliness. It is dire that you are alone and work on the things that have been keeping you from hearing and being directed to your chosen one. Many wise individuals have discovered that as much as they would like to be in a relationship, they simply are not ready. Reasons vary from individual to individual, but those that that can honestly say that of themselves are pinpoint sharp at recognizing their chosen love when the meeting occurs – and are eternally blissful for the time to prepare to handle it.
The major fight is between the Self and fear, doubt, dread, and hopelessness. That is one where you determine in your mind, that you WILL win. That your love is there and you are destined to find each other. No matter what. Joy and Hope will NOT leave you.
And when you do, just like the audience did watching this part, you WILL feel the applause around you for staying in there.
Eye of the Tiger, champ (I know, different movie). Now go catch a fly in chopsticks.