The Holidays; usually a time of peace and love and good-will towards man, but can often be the most loneliest time of the year for some. However!
(there’s always that Ray of Hope that I intend to always shine on my readers, as my own selfish pleasure!)
With the proper planning, YOU do not have to be caught off-guard feeling that hole in your chest. The first part is properly managing your SEROTONIN levels.
1.) Very important, how are your vitamin D levels? It’s no secret that in the winter, the sun’s hiding has made many people suffer from seasonal depression. Many times, the difference between smiling and not is just a boost to your levels. Your physician can check them out. If you’re like me, who doesn’t really have a physician, per se, I simply only had to monitor my dietary intake to know that I needed an increase in Vitamin D.
2.) As your workload/hours increase, plan on a way to have a definitive down time. Many, many people find that their workload is in crunch time as more consumers are spending in various industries. It is just as important to have a set and scheduled time to take a deep breath and relax. Think of it this way, you are only the best YOU you can be when your cortisol levels are lowered (the adrenaline that helps you kick in it into high gear). Things that I do (being a work from home mother of an active toddler, 2 active businesses, business meetings, serving clients, and then making sure to be the wife I’m need to be); I have a 20 minute Epsom soak bath for myself once per week, I workout in my living room, and make sure to have a massage session at least once per month.
3.) Sleep Patterns – It’s all about the Serotonin- Again, for many people during the winter season and holidays, because there is a slight dip in serotonin, many people find that they are more prone to either sleep more (due to depression from the low serotonin levels), chronic fatigue syndrome or suffer the other extreme – insomnia. During this time, not only does the correct dietary intake positively affect the levels, but positive mantra-type chants as affirmations prove to be more than just words, but actually changing your thought patterns.
4.) Extend kindness – Here’s something worthy of comment: If you deal with the public in your business in any way, planning on quenching the fires of angry customers is the definition of true kindness. Anyone can be nice to someone who is nice to him/her. And you already know customers will be testy. Planning on “killing them with kindness” will put you at ease and prep you when their heads and fingers wag in your face.
5.) Plan and set appointments for yourself for 15 minutes of laughter DAILY. Although I don’t think explanation is needed here, just see above at the first 4 reasons why (hint: it starts with a “sero” and ends with “tonin.”)
6.) Time with Friends – Time with NEW friends here, or those who you don’t get the opportunity to hang with, but mean to. And do different things! Ice skating, skiing, Specialty International food dining, or just hot cocoa and a brisk walk can do wonders for yourself and the other person
7.) Make gifts – don’t buy a thing! – Whoa, what? Yep, I said it. Save your pocketbook and the temptation to overspend and perhaps make candles, soaps, knit, scarves, etc. for gifts and start passing them out. Just a hint; Many, million-dollar businesses have started with simply crafts. Just saying..
8.) Plan on having change for the Salvation Army Bell Ringers- Even seeing these volunteers, we tend to be callous and desensitized to the fact that they are people and they are choosing to stand in the cold for a cause. Having change in your pocket to give when you go out will surprisingly make you feel good to know you are making a difference.
9.) When you are out in public, SMILE! Make eye contact and Smile! If misery loves company, why on earth would anyone want to share company with a miserable person? Aren’t you attracted to people who smile (it doesn’t mean that you have to marry the person or ask the person to birth your children), but for someone to actually smile… That’s usually the first way a fulfilling love can happen.
Now, here’s my heart for you and something I want you to truly take to heart : You ARE Worthy. You are Precious. You are Valuable. Your life DOES matter. In the good times and when you go through changes or struggles, you STILL matter. Your Overcoming is Inspiring. You have already been through so much, and yet you keep going. THAT’s Inspiring.
And though you may not feel worthy, priceless, or inspirational, that doesn’t mean it is true. With or without your feeling these things, there is a Lord who professes this fact. A Lord of order and Peace and not one to bash, belittle, or demean, but to encourage, strengthen, and show favor upon. I have been witness to many things; horrible marriages, abusive relationships and the such, even when they mistaken do this in the name of the lord. I used a small “l” because that’s not the Lord. I have seen the Power of a strong, lasting, loving marriage whose bond, or glue rather, is the Lord the couple made the vows before. I have seen, and now personally experiencing, how each person in the marriage resolve conflict.
Many times, this enlightened person started with alone times during the Holidays, and fervent prayer not for their Dream Guy/Girl be sent to them randomly, but instead praying over the very person they will be with; praying over his/her day, etc. This isn’t fantasy. This is actively preparing yourself to not only be in love and receive it, but to give it.
So on that note,
number 10.) Pray for your unseen mate and the day that he/she may be having, and that wherever in the world you are, you both are able to recognize each other when you do meet.
Love, Peace, and Smiles to You,
Shakira ‘Arikah Nash’ Baly-Jensen, Founder Two Hearts Offline Matchmaking
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