***This blog series will contain strong language and images for mature audiences only. The following images are not real clients, or images taken from dating sites, but are used to carry the point. ***
One of the departments Two Hearts Offline Matchmaking has, is an Online Cupid Secretary, which not only leverages time and energy for our clients to find dates more suited for them across the country, but it also helps prevent being scammed by online dating scammers with its background checks and methods saving our clients hundreds of thousands of dollars, broken and dashed dreams of infatuation, and time and energy.
So, we decided to elaborate a bit more on profiles dos and don’ts and how to keep from being scammed yourself.
Some will be a repeat from an earlier blog, but it truly bares repeating if you intend on going the online dating route.
Part 1. Pictures
Hair – Don’ts
1.) Please – Try not to cover your face with your hair. Remember this is for the first impression for someone to consider you as their very own sweetheart.
Facial hair –
Please look as trim and as presentable as you can be. Remember, not perfection, but the best YOU you can be.
About HATS –
Don’t wear them! If you are going to wear hats, make sure there are enough pictures to actually see your face. It’s ok to say that you’re a hat guy/girl, just please limit them for your profile pictures – and choose them wisely…
The last picture can also fit in this category –
Update your pictures!
You may have been a hunk or a prom queen back in the day, in all fairness, if you are already presenting yourself incorrectly, that is misleading. A person will love you regardless of how you use to look, so join him/her in the present day and make your profile pictures show you in the present day, not going any further back than two years (unless you there are drastic changes in your appearance including weight loss/gain or any noticeable cosmetic surgery.
Ladies, less IS more and applying it correctly is even greater.
The Half-naked Shots on dating sites other than hook-up sites
one word – WHY??
What never ceases to amaze me is reviewing profiles that want the serious relationship, yet, the images they choose are those that really say, “All the commitment of a bar, without the hassle of driving home drunk.”
Beloveds, if there are half-naked shots in the profile, “hooking-up/one night stands/and peep show video-ing” are sure to follow. I implore you to please guard your heart from settling for these online dating users – unless you want to end up showing your privates to someone across the country, and there’s no true commitment made. With the selfies craze, unfortunately, the sense of preserving oneself for a true love is becoming more rare. However, it is a quality that other successful users subconsciously look for in choosing a forever mate.
The above picture is also meant to share how important your background is so, please have your background perfect – and away from mirrors in case the mirror shows a dirty room.
Regarding Fish photos
It’s great, fellas, that you are proud of your catch, however, to put in perspective, many females must scroll through many many pictures of men proudly showing their catch, but here’s the secret – unless the woman is proficient in that activity, (or is worried she may not eat,) posting those pictures are not there for her, they’re there for you – which should not be. Send those to those who have expressed an interest in fishing. (of course, this is primarily for those men in the south where it is predominant.) Instead, think of creative pictures to post to catch her eye:
Cut Photos with other people (namely your ex) in them
NO…Stop being lazy, take new pictures.
Regarding pictures with your Pets.
Pet lovers ….. it’s great to show that you have and love your pets, however, if you show that they have a place in your daily life that is … a bit much, you may not attract the type of person you seek, so please simply go easy on the pet pictures on sites that are not specifically for finding pet lovers.
For in the next blog, I will discuss other photo no-nos And how to avoid being scammed.
Guarding your hearts and wallets,
Shakira Arikah Nash Baly-Jensen, Founder of Two Hearts Offline Matchmaking
http://www.facebook.com/twoheartsmatchmaking – (to be a beta-tester for the upcoming dating app Two Ships)